How Your Past Experiences Shape Parenting

This is the second in a series of blog posts that inspired me to create my Mission & Vision. 

Over the weekend, I took my son to a playground. I saw a little boy climbing on a tall structure on his own. When he reached the top, he suddenly got scared and started crying. 

“Be a man! Face your fear! Keep going!” his dad shouted from the bottom of the playground structure. 

Before you judge this man as being insensitive, I could tell he was just trying to be encouraging. 

Many of us parents have the best intention to teach our children what we know. What we teach often comes from how we perceive the world around us. Our perception is influenced by our experiences.

We as children absorbed a lot what we heard, saw, learned and taught by our parents, teachers, culture, society and more. And then we pass them down to our children without questions and our awareness.

While a lot of them are valuable and some are special gifts and strengths we inherited from our ancestors, some could lead to negative patterns that get passed down through generations.

Here are the statements you might have heard before:

“Boys don’t cry.”

“You do this now. Don’t disrespect me.”

“Money doesn’t grow on trees.”

“If you don’t study hard now, you will end up sweeping the floor (as a job) when you grow up.” (I used to hear this a lot as a child)

Do any of these bring back memories? How have they affected your life today?

Each of these statements has stories behind them. Depending on how you interpreted them when you were a child, they could have a subconscious influence on your thinking, actions and the choices you make in the present day as an adult.

As a Champion for Children, I care about their well-being as well as their parents’s.

My coaching can guide you to witness your past, rewrite the stories of your past and bring you to the present. Through our work together, you will naturally know how to navigate through parenthood and create more powerful love for your children and your family.

Healing the inner children of adults and breaking transgenerational patterns are what I truly believe can create more love, peace and happiness in our world. 

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With love and gratitude ❤️